K, I'm going to talk about my thoughts about flirting/ dating with your better half
Dating these days is getting damn complicated. Either you know your game or you don't. I consider flirting as a refined art, you make a mistake and then you either grow out of it or you quit. The whole problem I think is the self conscious issue. In my opinion self confidence comes from head to toe. Hair, complexion, weight, height. Plus clothes and shoes. You gotta be 100% confident in all these areas in order to not be too self conscious.
One thing which is the most difficult part about flirting/ dating is when your better half is playing hard to get. Playing hard to get is a good thing, it simply means that they don't come cheap. But playing TOO hard to get is simply tiring to keep up. Usually I would think shes not interested, has a bf or is gay. The easy ones are are the real trouble, either they are prob easy with other guys too or they will cling to you like super glue. If you find a very pretty girl who seems easy to you, either you are damn attractive or effective. Either way, I wouldn't waste my chances ;) (unless shes fugly or i'm already in a committed relationship)
The thing about dating is, time and money consuming. But the rewards on getting a love companion is totally worth it. Sometimes at the end of the day I feel really worn out with the whole thing and need a break from her (not a breakup, just a short break). Then I usually come back refreshed with more energy.
Language wise, its pretty tough for me to communicate with chinese speaking chix. Usually when I find an attractive one whos english educated, shes prob playing too hard to get, has a bf or simply not interested. Eventually when I do get her, shes a hell a lot of mantainance.. Getting it on with a girl who goes to church is prob better. I prefer the down to earth type, but yet attractive.
Keh i typed too much, enough for today